Time to think…about what you want going forward, besides having the divorce finished – hopefully favorably.  How can you carve out time to think when the divorce process has eaten into the free time you used to have?Why is thinking time important?

Thinking time spent on you – not your ex or your case – but what you want next is what’s going to pull you forward to the life YOU want.  You are now the captain of your ship.  Chart a course or risk being pulled in directions you had no desire to go in.  Spending time planning your life is a great way to regain a sense of control over your life.

How do you carve out time to think?

  1.   Schedule time to think.
    • It can be 15 minutes or 2 days, just block out the time.

  2.   Go somewhere different.
    • Someplace you won’t be distracted – a library, hotel lobby,  park, museum or book yourself into a hotel.

  3. Take care of yourself.
    • Eat beforehand or have food with you. Being hungry is distracting and can pull your mood down as your blood sugar falls.


  4. Be rested.
    • Get a good night’s sleep. Sleep-deprivation is another doorway to depression.

  5. Build a fort.
    • Turn off the cell, the iWatch, and any other notifying tool. Create an impenetrable boundary around your thinking time.


  6. Bring tools.
    • 10 pieces of paper, pens, pencils.


  7. Select a technique.
    • Write by hand.


  8. Free-write 3 non-stop pages.

  9. Mind map
    • Put a central idea in the center of page in a circle. Branch out from the center by answering who, what, where, why, how?


  10. Write a poem.
    • This is a real stealth tool. Poem writing is an excellent way to get to the truth of the matter fast.  Write at least 12 lines.


  11. Set your timer for 15 – 30 minutes.
    • Quietly reflect on what you wrote.


  12. Schedule your next think time. Rinse and repeat.